Chapter 4: The possible solutions to the marriage problems
Synopsis
Being married has many benefits and if you stay together to work on problems that arise, the relationship will grow stronger. Keep in mind that both of you will want to work on marriage problems.
Only if one person is willing to go to counseling or talk to you about the issues of the marriage, it will be a one way street. This means the marriage won’t be able to progress.
It is important to let your other half know why you want certain habits in the relationship to change. Tell him/her you are serious and if things don’t change, that you may very well file for divorce.
Your spouse will see that you are talking business and will want to change some of their habits. Of course – don’t be surprised if when the two of you sit down, they talk about some of the things you do. It is also okay for them to address your bad habits when you it comes to marriage.
Solutions
Solutions are fairly easy to come up with in a marriage but sticking to those solutions isn’t always easy. This is what the two of you must overcome and if one of you has trouble sticking to your goals, then communication is necessary.
The other person might come to reality and let you know they just cannot change, even though they have tried. Some people are at a spot in their lives where they really don’t want to change. Something must fuel their strong desire to change. Most of the time, this desire is to keep you and make their family life better.
You should understand that with possible marriage solutions, not every idea you come up with will work. For example, if you decide to have separate bank accounts because of your wife’s spending habits – she might even beg you to borrow her money. This creates tension on the marriage, because you see her habits unfolding once again and this leads to an argument.
Maybe it’s not the wife this time. Your husband often visits raunchy strip clubs and leaves you at home. His excuse is that you never are intimate with him.
Let him know it is not okay to do this and the next time he does it, you should leave for a few days. Once you come back, focus on the intimacy in your relationship. Are you too tired to be intimate with him? Focus on his needs earlier, before you both go to bed. Make it fun and don’t act like it’s a chore. We bet that the both of you enjoyed each other when you first entered the relationship, right? By bringing him back to this time, he will appreciate you and stay home more often. If he doesn’t, it may be time to let it go as this really wasn’t his excuse to go out.
- Chapter 1: Introduction
- Chapter 2: Survival and marriage
- Chapter 3: Difficulties of the first marriage
- Chapter 4: The possible solutions to the marriage problems
- Chapter 5: The types of education for early marriages
- Chapter 6: The basic soft skills for newly married couples
- Chapter 7: The hard skills that are needed by the newly married couples
- Chapter 8: The benefits of marriage survival
- Chapter 9: The A-Z marriage secrets and tips / Wrapping Up: The permanent solutions for marriage problems
