Chapter 7: The hard skills that are needed by the newly married couples
Synopsis
Marriage can be a beautiful thing but incorporating hard skills into a new marriage isn’t something that everyone wants to do. However, you must do this in order to make sure the marriage progresses. If you don’t, the marriage will be doomed and you’ll practically have nothing to work with.
Remember that Earth was created for humans to interact with each other and most of our life revolves around family memories. This is absolutely precious to us.
Family should always come first instead of going out with friends, working too much, or stressing over small things that do not have any direction towards the relationship. Take it slow and enjoy your time. Always be firm with your partner by incorporating hard skills into the relationship. Here are a few you’ll want to learn about:
Hard Skills
Problem solving
Whenever the two of you want to go eat out, it is a constant battle. For example, he enjoys eating food from South America while you only like to eat sushi. He absolutely hates sushi and anything with fish or rice with soy sauce isn’t something he would like to eat. This leaves you feeling distressed when it’s finally time to eat out.
How about going to two different restaurants to get what both of you want? You can order take out and go eat it at home, or plan a romantic dinner at the park. If you want to eat at a real restaurant though, just bring your food with you that you bought from the other restaurant. The two of you will be happy and won’t argue anymore with this type of technique. As you can see, problem solving in a marriage is very important.
Put your spouse first
This is probably the most difficult thing to do since most of us are generally selfish beings. However, if you love your spouse – you should do this for them. Find out what they want.
You can always make room for your needs on a different day. If they are feeling stressed, sad, or angry – talk with them. Ask your spouse if you can do anything to make he/she feel better. They will start to develop more respect toward you.
Be a forgiver
Many times in relationships, the wife or husband does something wrong that upsets the others. This leaves feelings of disappointment, anger, despair or even sadness.
Hold your feelings back and talk to them about why they did what they did. If it is an issue with cheating, you’ll need to know why they did this to you. Many times when people cheat, their spouse is not giving them what they need.
The most apparent reason is for lack of intimacy or lack of emotions. People will have an emotional or physical affair, depending on what problems are within the marriage. Instead of getting upset, just let them know how hurt you are and you want to make it work. Give them at least one more chance.
- Chapter 1: Introduction
- Chapter 2: Survival and marriage
- Chapter 3: Difficulties of the first marriage
- Chapter 4: The possible solutions to the marriage problems
- Chapter 5: The types of education for early marriages
- Chapter 6: The basic soft skills for newly married couples
- Chapter 7: The hard skills that are needed by the newly married couples
- Chapter 8: The benefits of marriage survival
- Chapter 9: The A-Z marriage secrets and tips / Wrapping Up: The permanent solutions for marriage problems
