This is a common concern in our society for single people of any age; how to make contact with someone that we like on a soft matter without being forward. The truth of the matter is that we have the opportunity to meet that special person everyday; at the bus station, at the grocery store, at church, at a class, at the gym, at the coffee shop, at the library.
1. Eye contact
There has to be a little game of eye contact. He looks at you. You look at him. You look away. You look again. He looks at you again. You smile. He smiles back. And so on...
And Men, you keep your eyes on her until she looks back.... and maybe, smiles. Then, approach her and introduce conversation. The easiest way is to say :" Hi! My name is _______. What is yours?" And say something nice about her. Something about her hair, something about the color that she is wearing, or the make up. Whatever you find nice and feminine about her appearance.
Later on, VERY IMPORTANT, say something nice about HER personality. Not on a physical level, but on a mental level. Is she intelligent? Did you notice that she is sweet? Did you notice that she how strong her values are? Do like that? Well then, go ahead and say it. The impact is worth the effort
2. Smile. It's the simplest way to have eye contact softly.
Not many people do this and this transforms that way we are perceived. I saw once on TV. a report on some kind of monkey in the African jungle; two males were fighting to get a female and to stop the fight, one had to show his teeth to the other one. For us human, smiling can have an emotional impact that could lead to dramatic effects on our lives.
Exercise: Smile to at least 5 strangers everyday, even if the person is not attractive to you. Be careful not to look as if you were "simple of mind". Just like a glance, a brief smile by looking in the eye and let go.
Try to get the habit, you will be surprise of the impact that you will have on other. Smiling is inviting and soon enough, it will become a reflex that could let you go far. I know one co-worker got a promotion because the upper management tought he was a candidate with the skills to do the job but also because he seemed like someone with whom it is easy to get along with.
3. Introduce conversation. The easiest way to introduce a conversation is to ask a question. Then, follow it with a short amusing story about the situation. For example, if you are at the grocery store and you see that cute girl near the peas section, excuse yourself and ask her what she would recommend. After she has answered, follow by a joke you have seen on TV or something that happened to you about peas when you were younger. Laughing or make a person laugh is a quality that you have to develop.
One important thing; don't think of the rejection; it will paralyze you. If they decline, say to yourself that there must be a good reason - they are already in a relationship or not ready to get involved yet, etc..- Move on to the next one. Very important. Don't let one or two declines prevent you from meeting that special person. If you don't take charge of your love life, who will?
4. Then you can pass on to the next step: You give your phone number or ask for it. Simply.
That is the lowest pressure invitation because it leaves the decision to the other person to call you. Or not. That way, no one is getting hurt. You can meet tons of people that way and be a "hot commodity". The more you will have dates, chances are that you will feel better about yourself and you will become more attractive to the eyes of the others.
Say something like " You seem like a fun person and I would like to see you again for coffee. I don't have much time right now so I am leaving you my phone number and call me next week and we will arrange for meeting. It was nice meeting you"
You can invite that person early in the conversation and let that person decide if they will call you. No pressure for anyone. Imagine if you do that to 3 people per week, chances are that you will have a busy dating life. You will make all of your unhappy married friends envious.
Those are just basic instructions to meet people. However, be creative. Try new method. At worst, somebody will say "no". At best, you may meet the person of your dreams...
Isn't it worth the effort?
About the author:
Who is Caroline? She is a growing expert on love, relationship, romance because she is reading extensively on the subject. She is gladly sharing her knowledge and experience. To continue receiving tips on how to get the love life that you want, you can subscribe free to her newsletter at http://www.everydaybetterliving.com info@everydaybetterliving.com
Hair Accessories: When
And How To Use Them
by: Jenny Andrews B
In the 80s, the hair accessory was invaluable. Almost every style
involved some sort of accessory or embellishment to really set it off.
Today, hair accessories not a part of everyday style and care should be
taken as to when and how to use them so that you will not look dated.
With that said, there are some occasions that scream for accessories:
Work, social occasions and formal events may all have you searching for
the perfect accessory to set off your look. While different occasions will
call for different hair accessories, a good rule of thumb to follow is to
choose the sedate accessory over one that could not go unnoticed in a
crowd of a few hundred or a few thousand.
While choosing the right one can be tricky, there are a few pointers
that you can follow to help you pick the perfect hair accessories to
complete your look. Here are just a few:
· Work. In many work situations, you will likely have to wear your hair
up. No matter if your type of employment requires it or you simply like to
change your look now and then, wearing your hair up calls for the right
accessory to do the job. The number one rule to finding the right
embellishments for work is to avoid banana clips at all costs. I mean, who
still makes these things? Apparently they’re making money at it or they
wouldn’t still be producing these torture devices of the 80s. Don’t
further their cause: stop buying this accessory. The second rule is to
choose accessories that closely match your hair color or that blend nicely
with it. Matching a hair clip to your clothes is only cute when you are
5-years-old. What you choose will depend largely on your length of hair
and how you like to wear your hair up. For French twists, choose hair
accessories that resemble over-sized hair clips. Simply twist and clip.
· Social and formal occasions. In social and formal occasions you have
a greater opportunity to express your artsy side through accessories.
Again choose sedate pieces over garish eye catchers. Classy pieces can be
perfect for social occasions, whereas a little sprig of flowers or
garnishment may be needed for formal occasions. Formal occasions are the
only time that is okay to match your accessory to your clothing. But
still, do not go overboard. What attracts the eye should be the beauty of
your hair, not too-busy additions to it. If in doubt about what accessory
or how much of it to include, opt for the simple solution: use as little
as possible.
The bottom line with hair accessories is that too much of a good thing
can confuse the eye and make your do look garish. Simple hair accessories,
on the other hand, can make a bold beauty statement that makes your hair
the talk of the office or party.
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