Chapter 6: The basic soft skills for newly married couples
Synopsis
Are you newly married and want to know the basic soft skills you’ll need in order to progress through the marriage? In order to do this, you cannot ask too much from your partner and communication is key. Accepting your partner how she/he behaves is very important.
You can always talk about any bad habits or behavior later, but wait until counseling. For now, it’s better for the both of you to fight once in awhile and come to terms with annoying in-laws. If there are more than a couple problems, you can address them all at once.
Skills
Love
The number one thing that holds a relationship together is unconditional love for the other person. If you love them for their personality rather then what they look like, there is a good chance the two of you will go far in life. Your wife could be an incredibly gorgeous looking woman and later become bigger because of the last two children she blessed you with.
In another instance, you absolutely adore your handsome husband but something has changed his life. He was recently attacked by a bear, leaving him scarred everywhere.
The two of you grew closer and even though he has scars on his face and some disfigurement, you still love him for his personality. He’s always been a funny and outgoing guy. Give him lots of love and appreciate that he’s still around. Remember that is attack could have been so severe that it would have been fatal.
What to expect
Whatever you do, it’s not a good idea to nag on your partner or expect too much. This can be extremely stressful on them. It is better to encourage them and give them suggestions at this point.
By doing this, you will help them grow as a person and develop better habits. If your guy was messy before he even met you, there might have been some small changes. Instead of throwing his coat on the floor – he picks it up. This is obviously a mark of progress but don’t expect him to clean the whole house or do laundry.
Communication
Talking with your spouse is very important. If the two of you can’t discuss important problems, issues, or dates within the relationship – consider the marriage over.
You might still be in the reality stage of your marriage and in this case, you are just getting to know that your partner is very shy around people. If he is shy around you, give him a slight push.
You’ll need to do this by asking him questions and talking about anything that comes to mind. In time, he’ll come around so try not to worry so much about it.
- Chapter 1: Introduction
- Chapter 2: Survival and marriage
- Chapter 3: Difficulties of the first marriage
- Chapter 4: The possible solutions to the marriage problems
- Chapter 5: The types of education for early marriages
- Chapter 6: The basic soft skills for newly married couples
- Chapter 7: The hard skills that are needed by the newly married couples
- Chapter 8: The benefits of marriage survival
- Chapter 9: The A-Z marriage secrets and tips / Wrapping Up: The permanent solutions for marriage problems
